Monthly Archives: October 2010

A Time to Rest

   I once told a fellow worker who had pulled multiple overnight shifts and was around during the day as well that he should get some rest. He answered, “I’ll get plenty of rest after I’m dead.” I am sure he will. Resting is important. I am not only speaking of sleeping, but also of just having some down time to relax, recharge and to distract oneself from the daily grind. Maybe even spend some time enjoying your favorite activity, praying or meditating.

   I am not speaking about laziness, yet many people seem to equate resting with laziness. Rest is important after working hard to refresh the body. Working hard without resting for a long time can lead to exhaustion and open the door for injuries and disease by lowering your alertness and diminishing your immune system.

   I had spent nearly two weeks being busy from 5:15am until 11pm each day. I felt exhausted. My girlfriend was busy as well. When I suggested that we merely rest during the weekend, she became immediately uncomfortable. She felt that any time not spent doing something productive meant that the time was wasted. I assured her that she deserved a rest. Even God rested. 

By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work.  – Gen 2:2 NIV

Ever the planner, my girlfriend asks “What is on the agenda today?” I am not a planner. I just go with the flow. I get things done when I can unless there is a previously established deadline. I believe this annoys her greatly. However, she is often disappointed when her plans don’t work out and I usually don’t feel that way. Even when my plans don’t work out, there are usually other times and other opportunities.

   Resting is also important for one’s mood and even outlook on life. It is so easy to get burned out. Without adequate rest, you can have difficulty concentrating and remembering things. That is why we have vacations so that we can get away from the everyday work and renew ourselves. Like many, I think I get more exhausted from my vacations. Maybe I try to do too much. People who get too little sleep or too little rest can be grumpy, be irritable, and make improper judgments.  Have you ever been working on a problem and it seems impossible but after you walk away from it for a short while, there seems to magically appear some solutions that you were sure weren’t there 30 minutes ago? I have.

   So work hard, work towards your goals and dreams, but don’t forget to take some time out to recharge. Connect with God, your loved ones and yourself. Your body and soul need rest. Don’t feel guilty taking a rest after working hard. Don’t spend so much time living your life that you forget to live it. Take a break and smell the flowers. Take a leisurely walk and remind yourself of the beauty and awe that God has created in the world. I am glad you’re in the world. You are a precious creation.

   Take care of yourself, be well and stay safe. God bless.


Kitchen Project 2010

   I am currently working on a kitchen project. I first moved to this house in July. It is my opinion that that two most important rooms in the house are the kitchen and the bathroom. The kitchen was dull and I wanted to liven it up. This was not only to make it more beautiful for myself but also as an act of love for my new “family.”

   I think this project has done and is doing much to bring my wonderful lady, my son and I together as a family and making this house feel like a home. I believe anywhere can be home. Home is where you are loved and accepted. Home is where you feel safe and protected. But this creates a feeling of home because we have each shared in creating its beauty.

   Theresa, my girlfriend, has lived on her own for a long time. She is not accustomed to have other people in her house. My son and I are demonstrating that we want to contribute to making the house a comfortable and beautiful place to live.

    The kitchen is full of cabinets, which I really didn’t realize how many until I marked the doors. The cabinets were white and the walls tan. It was very subdued and drab. We painted the walls a sunny yellow and the cabinets a lime green There are 23 cabinet doors, all painted ultimate white in high gloss. 22 of those doors will display some type of painted art in the center, each door unique amongst the others.

    This is also my plan to create wonder and beauty in the kitchen. I am painting each door using stencils and some free hand strokes. You are most welcome to visit the growing photo album here:

   Kitchen Project 2010

    I hope that you take time to involve others in projects around your home. Do not view it as a chore but as an opportunity to connect with ones you love. It is a great way to learn about aspects of a project, build skills, build confidence and a great source of therapy. I know I am enjoying this project. I have a lot of painting left to do. Check the photo album for additional pictures. There are 22 doors and 3 panels to be painted to complete the project.

   Take care, stay well and be safe. With much love, Justin.


Life is Like a Cup of Coffee

   I had dinner at a family restaurant this weekend. At the table there was a booklet of trivia. On the back of the book of trivia was a parable entitled “Life is Coffee.” I agreed with the parable and thought to myself that it woud be very much like something I would write. I searched the internet and found it at The booklet did not include the name of the author and I only found that the author is unknown.

Life is Like a Cup of Coffee

   A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

   Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

   When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: “If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups have been taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

   Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups… And then you began eyeing each other’s cups.

   Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live.

   Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. Savor the coffee, not the cups! The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.


New Business Card

Theresa Fischette of White Light Communications designed this new card for me. If you click on the card, you can see it more clearly. I feel she did a wonderful job.