This day was established by Pope Gelasius I in 496 AD. It was named after a priest, Valentine of Rome who married young men and women in defiance of an order decreed by Emporer Claudius II that young men not be married as he figured that they would be better soldiers. Valentine performed the marriages secretly until he was caught and subsequently martyred in 269 AD.
This is another of those holidays that I think should come every day. Although, I believe there are certainly those who need to be “reminded” to show appreciation to their loved ones, it really should be an every day practice.
Just think about all the things that your spouse or love one does for you every day that you might take for granted. Does she make breakfast? Does he brush the snow off the car? Does he do the dishes? Does she record his favorite programs? All these seemingly little things, and many more, are little ways that say “I love you, you are important to me and I am glad that you are in my life.” I try to think about all the things that my girlfriend and sons do for me in this way.
It is too easy to take these things for granted. Sometimes, we just assume that what has gone on will always go on. We “expect” our loved ones to do things for us, to think about us, to care about us. Even if we do expect them too, they should be told that their efforts are appreciated. Take your loved one in your arms, look them in the eyes and say, “I love you. I am so glad that you are part of my life. You are truly a blessing to me, a wonderful gift from God.” When was the last time you said something like that? If it hasn’t been lately, then say it soon.
This holiday is a bittersweet one for me. It was exactly a year ago on Valentine’s day that I last saw my Butterfly alive. She passed away a few days later. My last memories of her that day involved smiles, hugs and kisses. It was a wonderful day.
As I learned last year, you just never know when a loved one might depart. They may depart physically, emotionally or even depart this life. Nothing is permanent. Take advantage of the time you have, because now is the only time you really have. Tell those you love that you love them, not just on Valentine’s Day, but every day.