For many of us, we are taught to love our neighbors, love each other and love ourselves. This is an excellent goal. It is a goal that requires mindfulness.
It seems easier to love those far away. We are filled with compassion when we hear of disasters across the world. We send money, prayers and those that can, send themselves. Yet, it seems that we sometimes find it more difficult to find compassion for those close to us. The more we know someone, the more we witness their habits, their attitudes, their demeanor. We might find these things irritating to us because of our expectations. It is easy to forget that everyone thinks and feels differently than we do. We can become disappointed that someone close to us is not doing the things we think they should do.
Being very close to people also allows us to determine what that person really needs from us. They might just want someone to listen. They could just need help with a particular problem. They might, like you, want to be heard. We all want to be accepted.
It is up to us to listen, to watch, to pay attention, so that we can do our best to be a positive influence on those around us. And if they did that too, what a wonderful place it would be. The challenges and troubles would still exist, but we could support each other through them.
As for loved ones far away, it is good just to simply keep in tough. An email, a phone call, or even a text message lets them know you are thinking about them. Charities and disaster organizations allows your support to touch others you may never meet, but the impact is real.
Never forget to love yourself. Take it easy on yourself. We are usually very hard on ourselves, but we must realize that we are not perfect. But, we do have value, we have talents, we have potential and we have faults. If we love and accept ourselves, it makes it easier to love and accept others.
Glad you are here. Hope that you are well.